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Dance to Your Own Music

When a player makes a touchdown, he can celebrate. In the “old days,” the player simply spiked the ball into the ground. Or no festivity at all: he would toss the ball to the closest official. But 23-year-old Alex Collins, running back for the Baltimore Ravens, took this to new heights. When he made a touchdown last weekend, he celebrated by doing an Irish dance. And you’re probably saying to yourself, “Irish dancing on a football field? Really!” Collins said, “Others laugh at me, but it helps with my conditioning and footwork.” To prove it, he is having a banner year, leading the NFL in yards per carry. He’s living unstuck.

All football players strive to get and stay in shape. Rather than hitting the weight room or running endless laps, Alex got intrigued by Irish dance. His high school coach’s daughter introduced him to the steps, and away he went. He finds he is more explosive on the field, balancing on his toes for quick bursts of speed. (Think Michael Flatley in Feet of Flames). His deft lateral moves keep him well out of the reach of defensive linemen. Acrobatics and gymnastics were next for this young man. He says both of these activities help core body balance and strength. He’s dancing to his own step, his own rhythm.

Have you ever taken a look at a skill you’re developing and decided to add something else to make it even better? Maybe it’s your favorite recipe, and you want to jazz it up a bit. Or perhaps it’s a new tradition for the holidays.

For me, I’m learning to record mp3s so I can download scripts or sessions for my clients. Once I have this knowledge, other doors can open. Group meetings, online coaching, Youtube presentations: there are nights I can hardly sleep for my excitement. And this from someone who just learned some computer skills, with the patient help of a good friend, a very few years ago. I can hardly recognize myself. I’m living unstuck!

(By the bye, other football players are taking up Irish dance too. A 350-pound linebacker, dancing nimbly away, is a sight to behold).

Are you open to something new? A new hobby? A way to make new friends? Curious about anything different? Do it! Live outside the box. What box? Live unstuck. #Unstuck Living

Strength doesn’t come from what you can do.

It comes from Overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t.


Riding On His Shirttail

Last weekend New England was playing against the Atlanta Falcons. The game had just started but the players were fired up. The Patriots were close to the goal and pressing hard. The ball was hiked and tight end Rob Gronknowski picked up the short pass. He dinked the ball to wide receiver Brandin Cooks. Not all that unusual, but in this case the Gronk is 6’6″, weighing in at 265 pounds while Cooks is 5’10”, coming in at 185 pounds. Gronknowski began to move through a mass of huge men toward the goal, while Cooks grabbed onto his jersey and held on for dear life. Over the goal line for a touchdown. Cooks rode on Gronk’s shirttail. He got help from unexpected places. They played unstuck.

Over the years, I have been fortunate to “ride on someone else’s shirttail” until I can get my feet under me. The computer was a challenge until a very good friend stepped in and showed me the ropes. When learning to write, others who had good writing skills showed up in my path and paved the way. When I began public speaking, I hunted up presenters who taught me the basics. I’m a hypnotherapist, and my voice is important. I was able to enhance my voice, dropping it two levels, with the help of a speech therapist in a hospital. And I’m still learning. I am not shy about asking the pros for guidance and direction. Not about to stay in mediocrity, I live unstuck.

Most people never run far enough on their first wind to find out they’ve got a second.

—William James

Everyday Heroes

After a home game the Detroit Lions lineup is typically served a post-game meal in the tunnel leading to the locker room at Ford Field. The food is well flavored and filling, satisfying to large men who worked hard on a physical level for 2.5 or 3 hours. The players look forward to the grub and camaraderie.

Last week there was a video showing the large metal warming oven holding the meal . . .on fire. The entire warmer was enveloped in flames. No food. No sustenance for these hungry men.

As the video clip advanced, a woman dressed in white showed up. With her hand on her hip, she looked at the burning mess, waved a towel at the flames and shook her head. A crisis in the making. But she was not upset. She was not stuck. She was unflappable. She was an everyday hero. And I am confident she had an alternative to the fiasco she saw right before her eyes.

I think we have all been in a situation when we were in the middle of a catastrophe. Perhaps it’s a child’s birthday party. And the septic system fails during the festivities. Maybe a bride decides to cut corners and picks up her own wedding cake on the big day. The cake’s in the car and suddenly the light turns red. She slams on the brakes. Cake, frosting and support plate goes flying all over the inside of the car. Or a traveler drives across an icy bridge. Suddenly the car has no traction. On the other side of the bridge, the driver loses control and the car rolls over three times, coming to rest on its wheels. No one is hurt, but the vehicle is totaled.

At these “disastrous” times, we have choices. We can choose to be stuck and bemoan our fate, making the situation worse and worse with each remembrance. Or use the motto of the 60’s and 70’s and “go with the flow.” Be unstuck. Problem-solving will be easier when we can think clearly and tap into our inner resources. No more crisis or catastrophe. We’re moving on.

How about you? Are you an everyday hero? Choose to live unstuck. #Unstuck Living

Early Success

Each week a football team faces different challenges from the opposing team. Each game plan is different. It might be a strong emphasis on passing. Or perhaps an almost superhuman running back tipping the odds. Or the defensive line that’s a powerful force to be reckoned with.

UCLA has had a phenomenal win or two in the beginning of the season. They had a star quarterback in Josh Rosen and a very confident team. The offensive line was humming and the defensive line quick to catch the opponent’s strategy. The odds were in their favor to go all the way to a winning season. It was like a well-greased machine.

The question is: can they handle early success? Can they do well, then go and play a lesser ranked team with the same spirit? Or do they relax and lose their focus?

This same dilemma comes up for me when I work toward a goal. Let’s say it’s setting up an exercise routine. I want to walk every day and do some strength training three times a week. I start out well for the first two weeks. Then it rains. Or I have another deadline. Or some friends drop by. All too easy to slack off. My determination crumbles. I lose my focus.

If I catch the slow down before it’s a landslide, I’m in good shape. I can regain my original determination and develop a positive lifelong habit. You too?

If you are having trouble getting back on track after successfully bursting out of the starting blocks, here’s a thought. Don’t focus on being stuck. The words that go with that are: I did it again; I’m such a failure; I’m terrible with this. Instead, go back to when you first started your routine. When you were motivated and excited. When you were past the original aches and pains and began to feel good. You might make that feeling a color. In your mind, bring that feeling or color through your current stuckness to the present time and watch the energy return. You don’t have to stay stuck. To reverse the downward trend, get stuck on success.

If you always put a limit on everything you do, physical or anything else — it will spread into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there. You must go beyond them.

Bruce Lee

Riding on Past Success?

I achieve a big goal. Something I’ve always wanted. If you’re like me, maybe it’s losing the X number of pounds you wanted to shed. Or kept to your three times a week exercise program. Or kept your promise of a positive attitude for 3 weeks.

It’s like a team taking stock after winning the Super Bowl. They achieved the highest goal in football. They worked hard. Practiced for many hours. Studied play books. Analyzed other teams. Developed their own strategies. The NFL Championship was theirs. They reached the synergy of playing together and came to the pinnacle of success. They are riding on top of the world.

Then what? And I’m the same way. If I’m not diligent with myself after I get to where I want to go, I slack off. Get stuck in complacency. I don’t have the drive I once did when working toward that goal. Just sneak in an extra snack or two. Or how about a dessert? So easy to sleep in and not move my body. Stuck in a downward spiral. After all, I made it! But I can persevere and remember what a challenge it was to get to where I am now. And having the wake-up alarm in another room stops snooze control mode.

Your thoughts? Leave a comment below.

Are you riding on past success? A tip to move past this: have a dream behind the dream. Set up a plan for another goal before you begin. Now when you get to your goal, here’s where you go. Celebrate. Now the next step is . . . You’re not stuck. Set yourself up for success. Get stuck on winning. #Unstuck Living