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Helping Each Other

Duff here. We are still in Recovery Mode from Our last snowstorm. The White stuff was piled very High with Drifts and berms. Around Our place, a kind Soul scattered some ice Melt to help clear Pathways. That product is fine for Humans who wear boots, but Not so for Me. The result? An absolute indignity. Mom gathers Me up and Carries me to an area clear of It. She means well, but I am quite independent. And I am not a Baby. The first few Carries were Fine. But after a while, I skedaddled down the Stairs. Living unstuck as a Fine Male Dog, with dignity intact.

The New Area had its own hazards though, for it was a sea of Ice with patches of snow and Pavement. I am mindful that while I have Four Paws, Mom is hindered in having only Two Legs. So as We cross this Challenge, I move along the Snow and stop when I reach Ice. I look back at Her to warn of that Slick Stuff. Once She is past the danger, We move along. She is clumsy at Times, and doesn’t have My balance of Multiple Appendages. We help each other. Living unstuck.

How about You? Do You get help moving through Travails and Trials? And then return the Favor as You can? I say: Participate in This Endeavor. It is a comfort for You and a great assist to the Other. It makes You feel Good, too. You might even experience a Warm Glow. A lift in Your heart. That’s living unstuck. #unstuck-living#helping-each-other

Winter forms our character and brings out our best.

—Tom Allen

Make Me Feel Important

Pretend that every single person you meet has a sign around his or her neck that says, “Make me feel important.” . . . You will succeed in life.

—Mary Kay Ash

Duff here. I was wondering the other day: What would the World be like if We all treated each other as The Most Important. Can You imagine? And there are so many ways to do That. Truly Listening to what They have to say. Looking at Them as they speak. Being interested in Their Inner Being, Their Heart’s desires. Resonating with the Core of that Other Person and being Receptive to where They are at that Moment? Priceless. Living unstuck.

As a Canine, I make People feel important every day. Since I can’t read (Dogs don’t, You know), I have a Secret Weapon. I have a Sensitivity that surpasses any written Messages. I know when Folks are happy. Or when They’re sad. When they are upset or when They are triumphant. I have a built-in Inner Perception and am aware when I need to be Close. Or give People some Space. That’s living unstuck.

How about You? Do You make people Feel important? Or just pass Them by? I say: Tune-up that Built-In Perception. Take a Moment and revel in Them. Both of You will glow and Shine. Success will be Yours. Living unstuck. #unstuck-living#make-me-feel-important

You Are Such a Light

A candle is a small thing. But one candle can light another. And see how its own light increases, as a candle gives its own flame to the other. You are such a light.

— Moshe David

Duff here. Mom and I have many Good Friends who are Jewish. Their Celebration of Lights begins on Sunday, and We want to honor the Holiday. As the Story goes, a small Quantity of oil, to light The Temple’s Menorah, miraculously lasted for eight days. It’s amazing to Me that There was enough Oil in that vessel to continue burning for that long. A True Miracle! To recognize the Event now, Gifts are exchanged and parties Thrown for that Length of Time. My goodness. Now that’s really Living Unstuck.

On another Note, a Friend of Ours who is Jewish holds a Special Place in My Heart. He took it upon Himself to help Socialize Me when I was Younger. He had Many Dogs. And He thought I might be lonely, for I am a Single Canine. (There’s just Me in Our home.) He thought perhaps His dogs could Light the candle of Friendship. Mom dropped Me off at His Place, and He gently introduced His Pups to Me. Alas, I am a Shy Dog. I was having none of that and immediately scooted under the Steps of the Porch — no unstuck living that day for me.

Do You have Friends who are Jewish? I say: Help Them revere the Occasion and wish Them A happy Hanukkah or Hanukkah Sameakh. They will appreciate Your Thoughtfulness and may even Share the History of that Time with You. My Friend did with Mom and Me, and We have long Remembered it. Happy Hanukkah! #unstuckliving#happyhanukkah

The Aroma of Skunk

Duff here. When at My regular Haunt to do My Business the other day, I encountered an Interesting Scent. It was pungent. It was aromatic. It was all encompassing. It was fragrant. And I was intrigued. What in the World could have an Aroma such as This? I wanted to Find out and make friends with the Critter of the Source. But Mom was having None of It. “No. You don’t want to meet up with a Skunk,” She said. (She is the One Who Must Be Obeyed.) And redirected My wanderings for the Perfect Place to take care of My affairs. She lived unstuck, but not Me.

I carefully Sidled back to That Place of Alluring scents. After a moment or Two, Mom caught onto my Shenanigans. Back I went, two or Three times. Mom tried to explain It wasn’t the Best Place for Me to be. But I was persistent. Finally, Mom laughed and Picked Me up. (Bet She was glad I only weigh 12 pounds.) She walked up the Road and Gently placed Me in another Spot. Not nearly so odorous. But It would do for My purposes. We then both lived unstuck.

How about You? Have You headed for a Disastrous Place, only to have a Friend save You from Yourself? I say: Thank Them for their Kindness. They will Save You a lot of Misery in the End. And You’ll be Better off for It. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#kindnessoffriends

If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan but never the goal.


Creating a Red Letter Day

I love when people that have been through hell walk out of the flames carrying buckets of water for those still (not yet) consumed by the fire.

—Stephanie Sparkles

Duff here. Seems to me this Quote has Different levels. At first, I thought of Our brave Fire Fighters, keeping My Home safe and secure. I am Grateful. Firemen have a Special Place in My heart, too, for They Once Rescued Me from Our locked Car. Mom somehow Left The Keys inside with Me, probably so No One would take the Vehicle. But that’s a Story for Another Time. Definitely not Living unstuck that day.

As I Consider this Thought More Deeply, I remember The Situations where People Help one Another. Perhaps Someone has Put on a Gala Celebration. And a Friend is Stymied as To how She will Throw Her own party. She is upset. Not Happy. Very Worried, for The Grand Event is quickly Approaching. Imagine Her relief as the other Friend offers Her assistance. And friendship. And laughter. Living unstuck.

How about You? Do You support Others Needing the Wisdom of Your Years? Have You stepped in To Help another Who is Struggling? Lending a Hand when Needed? I, Duff, applaud You. You have Created a Red Letter Day for Someone Else. And That makes All the Difference. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#dedication#kindness

My Invitation for Mom

Duff here. I went to Doggy Day Camp the other day. You already know What a Joyous Occasion this is for Me. I get to meet My Friends, run around in a Very large Play Area and connect with other Four Legged Canines. The Kennel is the Best, for I have My very own Spot, just for Me to Laze about In. The Lady Owner is very Kind to me, often calling Me by Name and telling Me what A Good Boy I am. It’s nice to be recognized for Who You are. That’s living unstuck.

This Time was a little Different. I Charged out of the Car after It stopped, Ready to Go and Play. But on My Way to That Diversion, I remembered Mom. After all, She had Made This Day possible. She called and Arranged a Space for me. She packed my food. She drove Me There. So turning on a Dime, I Ran Back to Mom and Invited her To come Play with Me and My Friends. I could tell she was Touched by My Gesture. But She reassured Me: This Time was Mine. We would Play on another Day. And off I went, To Live Unstuck.

How about You? Do You have a Fun time Planned? And at the Last Moment, remember another Friend Who Would enjoy the Festivities? What happens Then? Do You pick up the Phone and Make That Call? I encourage You to do So. No Matter their Decision, You have extended an Invitation of Inclusion in Your World. And that Makes all the difference. Live Unstuck. #unstuckliving#inclusion#cameraderie

Hold a true friend with both your hands.

—Nigerian proverb

Claiming Your Territory

Duff photoDuff again. Mom and I were perusing Facebook the other day. My, oh my. So many pictures of Animals of all Sorts. Some of the best (My opinion) are the Dogs. But recently, there was an Otter Momma teaching her Young ‘Un how to swim. And the rescue of a Hawk stuck in the grill of a Car.

But the Very Best Ones are those of People with Other people, Smiling away. They often have their Arms around each other and are Snuggled in Tight. I suddenly realized why Mom points her Phone toward the Two of Us and Takes a Picture. She’s claiming Me. I belong to Her Crew, for She is my Pack Leader. And Together We live unstuck.

Then I also understood: The People taking Their Pictures together are Putting a Claim on each Other. “This is my Friend.” “We did This together.” Or even “This is what We had to eat.” (I can really get into the Eats, as you can imagine. Some of those Munchies even looked Quite tasty, for Foods of any kind are My Choice.) These folks are living unstuck.

How about You? Do You take Pictures to claim a friendship? Or perhaps create a Memory? Or document Something Really Hilarious? Or do You move through Life, enjoying the scenery and Taking Pictures with Your Heart? I say: Mix it up. Do either one, depending on your Mood or Inclination. Whichever choice You make, I suggest You bolster your Friendships and Thoroughly Delight in Your Claim of the Good Times. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#claimyourterritory

PS: By the bye, I claim my Territory the ways all Dogs do. I’ll leave that to Your imagination.

Remember, there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.

—Scott Adams