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A Happy Person

A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.

—Hugh Downs

Duff here. There are times it’s a Challenge to be a Very Small Dog. I take eight steps or more with Each Step of Mom’s. Of course, that counts for the fact I have Four legs. But I persevere, knowing We will both get to Our Goal. And return in fine Style. Now, Mom’s People are from Iowa farming heritage. Good steadfast Stock, which is kind of like Me. I have been pleasantly Surprised during this Unsteady pause. Mom is honing Skills She didn’t even know She had. Pivoting Plans for the Future. Able to turn on a dime. Being persistent. That’s living unstuck.

But first, She got a bit bogged down with the Topsy Turvy World We’re in right now. So She took a look at Her stinkin’ attitude. (Mine is always stellar.) Much as her Farmer Ancestors did over Winter, She sat back and Took Stock. What needed to be Done. What could wait. Then She grounded herself, and We were back in Business. She got her Attitude right, and She is Happy again. That made Me happy too, you know. Living unstuck.

How about You? Is this the Time to wallow a Bit? Then get Your Attitude right? It’s almost as if You’re on a Stay-Cation. What are You doing with the Days You have? I say: Make the most of Them. They will be Gone before You know it. And I’m here to Cheer You On! Living unstuck. #unstuck-living#

Resilience Over the Years

Love many. Trust few. Learn to paddle your own canoe.

—Vanilla Beane, 100-year-old milliner

Duff here. Recently, Mom and I watched an interview with The Hat Lady, 100-year-old Vanilla Beane. What a woman! Think of all She has seen in Her Life: From horse and Buggy to the Space Shuttle, and everything in between. Born in the South, She followed her Sisters to Washington D.C. and began work as an elevator Operator. There was a Millinery Shop in the same building, and Vanilla got intrigued with Making hats. She tried her hand at That and After retiring from a GSA position, started to create these lovely custom-made Confections. (I wonder what Kind of Hat She would design for me?) She lived unstuck.

She began with small Brim hats in the 40’s and has changed with the Fashions through the Years, even to the Unusual Shapes for the Kentucky Derby. For six decades, Beane and the crowns She creates are a must-have in D.C.’s African-American church-going community. Her shop, Bene Millinery and Bridal Supplies is a legacy, and She still works alongside other family members, 6 days/40 hours a week. That’s living unstuck.

Vanilla’s Mom gave Her the Advice in our Thought For The Day when She was a little Tyke. Those phrases have served Her well all these years. And Resilience is Her Watchword.

How about You? Were You given Words to Live By as a Little one? Or do You make them up as You go? I say: Think back to the Wisdom handed down to You. More often than not, You have relied on the Energy of those Words for many Years. Keep on! Living unstuck. #unstuck-living#steadfast

I Ate Your Homework

A ferocious concentration and fanatical execution is what you need to finish strong.

—Gary Ryan Blair

Duff here. Oh, that Cousin Hortense! She was such a character, in Her own right. Such a Charming Disposition and She never met a Stranger. Even the most Difficult of persons (and Canines) quickly warmed up to Her. She was Adventurous, ready to check out Most Anything. And She would Play at the drop of a Hat. Living unstuck.

However, She had one Little Drawback. Only One. Hortense loved to destroy Pages of paper. Books. Newspapers. Letters. IRS notices. Spiral bond notebooks. Tax information. Homework was Her favorite. She would carefully Steal whatever Object struck Her fancy, then stealthily slink away to her Doggie Bed. Once there, She would rip and Tear, shredding and decimating as She went. (I specialized in Kleenex, but She was the Pro.) When Caught, her Winning Smile won anyone over, as You can see. How could You be Upset with a Golden Girl like That? Living unstuck.

How about You? Have You worked On a Project, only to have it Destroyed by Another? How did You react? Anger? Or Laughter? I say: Go for the Chuckle. And keep those Paper Goods Way up high when Hortense is around. Just sayin’. Live unstuck.

Season of Opposites

Spring is when you feel like whistling even with a shoe of slush.

—Doug Larson

Duff here. Early Spring is a season of Opposites. Some days of Balmy Weather arrive, with the Promise of New Growth and Green Shoots on Trees. Mom abandons Her coat and life is good as We go for longer Walks. The Birds with Their cheerful Twitters are returning. An upbeat Feeling flows through the Town. More folks come to visit these parts and the Traffic increases. Living unstuck.

Then, Mother Nature springs a Brief Surprise of Cold Rain and Snow. I keep My Walks short during Those times. Or at least sidling Under Trees and other Shelter provided by shrubs and bushes. Mom is on Her own, but She has Opposable Thumbs and can hold an Umbrella. She even releases Me from the Leash so I can wander About, for She has found the Issue of a Shoe of Slush is not to Her liking. But We will take this early Delight, knowing Warmer Days are on their Way. Living unstuck.

How about You? Are You ready for Spring? Or focused on the Cold Slush in Your shoe? I say: Open Your heart and Whistle Your song. Or at least hum along with Me as We stop and start this New Season of Growth. Live unstuck. #unstuck-living#early-spring

Leap Year Day

According to 30 Rock, which is an authority on these matters: anything that happens today, didn’t.


Duff here. We’re on the cusp of February 29, Leap Year Day. And what if everything You do Tomorrow was Make Believe? What a Day that would be! And what would You do with this Span of Time where You were totally free to do what You wanted to Do? No deadlines to meet. No adulting for the Day. You could Play hopscotch and Leap onto the Numbers. Meet with Friends and Play all day. (I often do that at Doggy Day Camp.) Living unstuck.

As far as I’m concerned, the February 29 Leap Year Mantra goes something like this:

Today is an extra day.

Today is a special day.

Today is an extra special day.

Tomorrow is Your Extra Special Day. And what better Day is there to try something New than a Day that only comes Around once every few Years? So, I say: Learn to sing cabaret. Zip line. Stand on Your head. Ride an electric bike. Go skiing. Belly dance. Give origami a shot. The World is Yours. Live unstuck. (Well, at least for One Day.) Try it. You’ll like it. I’m with You all the Way. Live unstuck. #unstuck-living#leap-year-day

Flight to Freedom

Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcase of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.

—Shannon L. Adler

Duff photo

Duff here. Self Worth is like a Gem. And when You turn a diamond in Your Hand, the Sparkles from the Many Cuts within bounce a beautiful Spectrum. (Personally, I love to chase the Reflections of the Sparkles on the Wall. Why, I can entertain Myself all Day long.) That’s running free and living unstuck.

These Colors are all part of the Whole. But It’s sad so many Folks forget Their Inner sparkle with all those Facets. Their own Self Worth gets covered up by “I-gotta-do-this” or “this-is-what-a-mom-does.” But like in a magician’s Trick; once the Dark Cloth is whisked away? Courage fills Them as Pride and accomplishment Begin to Shine. They have stepped onto the Freedom Plane, the flight assured. They discover Who They are. Curious. Happy. Living unstuck.

How about You? Figured out Your Worth? Or wallowing in the Same Crater? I say: Climb out and Enjoy the Sunshine. Polish off Your Pride and wing Your Way to freedom. I’ll be right There to Sparkle along with You. Living unstuck. #unstuck-living#self-worth

Love Is In the Air

All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.

—Charles M. Schulz

Mom and I (and Snoopy of Charlie Brown fame) wish You a Happy Valentine’s Day.

You are Our Special Valentine!