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Those Scary Dark Roads

Duff photoHello! Duff here. It’s That Time of Year. When Whoever is in Charge decides to Slow Down the Sun and Delay the Break of Dawn. This makes the Outside Areas Dark. That’s right. Pitch Black. Now, Mom and I have a particular Route We take every Morning. Some might call this Circuit a Rut, but I refer to It as a Routine. I’m okay in the beginning of Our Jaunt. I move right along, for My Bladder is full and I am Ready and Willing to Relieve Myself. And as You already know, I need to check out My territory, for Night Time Intruders do roam about. I live unstuck.

Recently, however, I have come to a Certain Point in this Customary Activity. And Stop in My Tracks. It is then that I peer down the Road, looking into the Darkness. My ears are perked, for I need to discern Any and All Sounds of Importance. My Nose Wiggles, for Problems can often be Scented Out. (Mom is of No Help here. She is oblivious and stands patiently, waiting for Me to protect the Both of Us.) It is then I become acutely aware that I am a Very Small Dog. So as of a few Days Ago, I have decided to Turn Around and head for Home. Sometimes, I need To Retreat to process The Input I’m receiving to make The Appropriate Decision. I’m living unstuck.

How about You? Do You conjure negative Fantasies when You take a Look into Your Future? Do You wait for a Better Opportunity? Or do You turn around and Develop a New Strategy for Future Success? I recommend: Either Way is Acceptable, depending on Your Needs and Goals. My Goals in this Story were met long Before I Ventured to that Edge of Darkness. In Your case, You can Forge ahead. Or Come back when there’s More Light on Your Options. Either way is good, as long as You don’t get stuck in the Blackness of Indecision. Make some light. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#light-and-darkness

Stories are light. Light is precious in a world so dark. Begin at the beginning. Tell Gregory a story. Make some light.”

—Kate Di Camillo, The Tale of Despereaux

My Embarrassing Moments

Duff photoDuff here. Actually, I should have Titled This: Embarrassing Moments I have created for Mom. But no matter. As You have noticed by Now, I am a Dog. While I am a Very Small Canine, I still have powerful Attributes. One of Them is the Ability to Release Digestive Gas. (Otherwise known as Cutting Cheese. Or Passing Gas.) To me, it’s a natural way to Live. And Little Children love it!

But I am a Dog. And Mom is Not. She is embarrassed to No End when I perform this Feat, especially when We are in Public. I quickly gather Myself into a particular Pose and There It is. At the Conclusion of This Behavior, I Smile my Doggy Smile. And live unstuck.

Mom does Not see the Humor in This. Occasionally, she is not able to Gather Me up fast enough to Secure the Area. She is left to Apologize and Run for the Air Freshener. Every so often, She has considered Striking a Match, which is useful to Clear the Air. But then, My Mom thinks the Power of What Is might be Too much. That the Combustion might cause an explosion. Can you Imagine? Not unstuck at all.

I won’t even ask if You have found Yourself In this Situation, for this is a Delicate Matter. But alternatively, has An Embarrassing Moment come upon You, and You wished you could be Whisked Away? Or do You tough it out, Laugh it off and live unstuck? I recommend the latter, for Life’s Calendar flies by too Quickly. You can Follow My lead, and Live Unstuck. #unstuckliving#embarrassingmoments

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.

—Charles Swindoll

The Pebble in Your Shoe

Often it is not the mountains ahead that wear you out, it’s the pebble in your shoe.

—Muhammed Ali

Duff photoDuff here. As I considered this concept, its implications were astounding. I was remembering Past Relationships with Other Puppies and Special Friends. Often, time spent with Them was peaceful. We had fun. We Ran and Played Games. We even Dozed and Napped together. We lived unstuck.

But there were occasions where we had a Dust Up. Disagreements can come to the Best of Friends. But we worked away on our differences and came up with Viable Solutions. Perhaps one of us backed off to further ponder the Situation. Or Both of us would go to Different parts of the Play Yard to cool down our tempers. Or even to have Our Owners gather us up for a Breather. And we always came back together to Gambol and Romp some more. Get that pebble out of Your Shoe, I say. Live unstuck.

Do you get caught up in the Minor Dramas of Life? Do you spend major Time Fretting and Fussing over a Minor Issue? I say: Take a Break. Have a Friend move you into a new Mind Set. Back off and work out: Is this a Battle? Or the War? When I do, I live unstuck. And you will too. #unstuckliving#perspectives

Doing Some Spring Cleaning?

Spring is here. Buds have formed and are beginning to unfold. The peach trees, the daffodils and other small bushes have unfurled their colors. The sun rises earlier and earlier to bring those longer and warmer days. Birds have returned and are splashing around in the pond. Others chirp sleepily in the trees as I take my early morning walk with MacDuff. The sun is shining, but not overbearing. The mornings are still brisk, with a crisp edge to the breeze. The promise of a warmer tomorrow is already there.

As spring moves in, the forsythia with its branches with bright yellow star-like blossoms wave in the breeze. The tiny pink buds of the flowering plum and the white blossoms of the apple and pear trees are all showing their colors. The sun shines through the greening branches, making it hard to concentrate on anything indoors. I yearn to be outside.

Springtime inspires me to clean and declutter my home and yard. Those dust bunnies and cobwebs that have gathered over the winter months are exposed. It’s also a good time to clean out my thoughts and feelings. When I do a mental spring-clean, my life is easier. With ongoing rebirth going on around me in nature, I find it hard not to weed out the old that is no longer useful in my mind, the parts that are keeping me stuck.

At a slow start for the season? Don’t miss out. Here are a few ideas to help you find your way:

  • Get outdoors. Take a walk, begin to clean up the yard or go for a bike ride. Have a picnic, either on the porch or a few miles away after hiking in from the trailhead. Let the soft, bright sunshine lift any heavy, dark thoughts and feel them drift away.
  • Cultivate quiet time. Set some time aside and take a mental inventory. Check out what has been cluttering your heart and mind. Take a planned break from technology and your “electronic leash.” Spend some time to visualize how you want to feel in your life and your friendships. Then take a move to fulfill those dreams.
  • Develop a new skill or learn a new hobby. Perhaps your mind has grown stale over the winter. But how to expand your horizons? Go back in time: always wanted to learn to develop a skill? Weld? Shoot? Or play a harmonica? Go for it. What was your favorite hobby as a child? Pick it up again. It’s spring, the time of renewal. The creative abilities of your mind are endless.
  • Learn to “row your boat more gently down the stream.” At times life seems to come all at once, bringing a compelling need to take care of business right away. But we can move at our individual pace for it will all get done in due time. Make life easier and enjoy more both within and around you.
  • Think more optimistically. Want to boost your immune system? Be happier in general? Look at the bright side of life and find that silver lining in life. Weed out “always” and “never” from what you’re saying; you’ll find the world to be a better place.

I’m curious: what are you doing to welcome spring? How are you spring cleaning, either inside yourself or outside in your home or garden? I’d love to hear. Enter your comments below.

The Joy of Different Perspecitives

Duff here. I love to ride in my car. Notice it’s my car. My mom is simply a chauffeur. A good one, but just someone to ferry me around. And that’s as it should be.

I like to cruise from the front seat to the back, from one side of the car to the other. The view from my mom’s lap is quite different from what I can see from the other side. The back seat affords different opportunities too. On one side, I can perch on my carrier and look directly at the driver next to us. Or if there are other Dogs, I can greet them, being careful not to gaze directly so as to incite a challenge.

As I look ahead, I can see the pavement with that funny yellow stripe, showing up . . . then fading as we slowly move down the road. When we pick up speed, the line blurs and seems to be a single stripe. As I look behind me, I notice how quickly we leave what we have already seen behind us. The perspective from each window is quite different. Mom and I live unstuck.

Ever notice the differences in what you see as you move through life? How the front windshield is quite large, as is the potential of your future? And the rear view mirror quite small, reflecting the problems of your past? That your present (on either side) has many different facets? The points of view are endless. I say: enjoy the ride . . . and appreciate the view. Live unstuck. #UnstuckLiving

Life is a journey, and if you fall in love with the journey, you will be in love forever.

—Peter Hagerty

The World According to Duff: Perspectives

MacDuff, pedigreed muttHello! My name is MacDuff. (MacDuff Courtney is what my mom calls me when I don’t come to her promptly, which is often). All 12 pounds of me is adorable. Just ask me, and I’ll tell you. I am a pedigreed mutt, or a Bichy-Poo-Shi-Tzu, or a Bichon Frise-Toy Poodle-Shi Tzu mix. Did I tell you I’m stinkin’ cute? I think I’m perfect just the way I am. I’m living unstuck.

My view of the world is from 8 inches off the ground. You may think my world is limited, but not so. And when I meet people, I specialize in shoes, ankles, socks and clothing from the knee down. People who live with cats and dogs are particularly interesting to me. The scents are divine.

When I think of your perspective of the world, it’s much more expansive. You can see a long way out. My view is probably 5 feet or less. (There’s always something in the way. Not that it makes any difference). You can make plans for the future. My future consists of: what’s for dinner? Or: is it time to play? Or: is it time for bed? Or: watch me run!

Think about your view of the world. Is it positive? Or a downer? Plans for the future? 5 years out? Ten? Do you like yourself? Think you’re adorable? Live unstuck. #Unstuck Living

Imagine your life is perfect in every respect: What would it look like?

—Brian Tracy