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You Are Such a Light

A candle is a small thing. But one candle can light another. And see how its own light increases, as a candle gives its own flame to the other. You are such a light.

— Moshe David

Duff here. Mom and I have many Good Friends who are Jewish. Their Celebration of Lights begins on Sunday, and We want to honor the Holiday. As the Story goes, a small Quantity of oil, to light The Temple’s Menorah, miraculously lasted for eight days. It’s amazing to Me that There was enough Oil in that vessel to continue burning for that long. A True Miracle! To recognize the Event now, Gifts are exchanged and parties Thrown for that Length of Time. My goodness. Now that’s really Living Unstuck.

On another Note, a Friend of Ours who is Jewish holds a Special Place in My Heart. He took it upon Himself to help Socialize Me when I was Younger. He had Many Dogs. And He thought I might be lonely, for I am a Single Canine. (There’s just Me in Our home.) He thought perhaps His dogs could Light the candle of Friendship. Mom dropped Me off at His Place, and He gently introduced His Pups to Me. Alas, I am a Shy Dog. I was having none of that and immediately scooted under the Steps of the Porch — no unstuck living that day for me.

Do You have Friends who are Jewish? I say: Help Them revere the Occasion and wish Them A happy Hanukkah or Hanukkah Sameakh. They will appreciate Your Thoughtfulness and may even Share the History of that Time with You. My Friend did with Mom and Me, and We have long Remembered it. Happy Hanukkah! #unstuckliving#happyhanukkah

The Aroma of Skunk

Duff here. When at My regular Haunt to do My Business the other day, I encountered an Interesting Scent. It was pungent. It was aromatic. It was all encompassing. It was fragrant. And I was intrigued. What in the World could have an Aroma such as This? I wanted to Find out and make friends with the Critter of the Source. But Mom was having None of It. “No. You don’t want to meet up with a Skunk,” She said. (She is the One Who Must Be Obeyed.) And redirected My wanderings for the Perfect Place to take care of My affairs. She lived unstuck, but not Me.

I carefully Sidled back to That Place of Alluring scents. After a moment or Two, Mom caught onto my Shenanigans. Back I went, two or Three times. Mom tried to explain It wasn’t the Best Place for Me to be. But I was persistent. Finally, Mom laughed and Picked Me up. (Bet She was glad I only weigh 12 pounds.) She walked up the Road and Gently placed Me in another Spot. Not nearly so odorous. But It would do for My purposes. We then both lived unstuck.

How about You? Have You headed for a Disastrous Place, only to have a Friend save You from Yourself? I say: Thank Them for their Kindness. They will Save You a lot of Misery in the End. And You’ll be Better off for It. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#kindnessoffriends

If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan but never the goal.


Catching Up With Buddies

Duff here. Recently, I have had the Opportunity to catch up with Those I have not seen for Some Time. For Instance, some of Our Clients come on a bi-weekly or Monthly basis. (That’s a Very Long Time for a Dog.) When They arrive at the Doorstep of the Office, I do My meet and greet. No longer do I Jump up on Them, for I have learned My Manners. But I do tell Them how pleased I am to See Them in My Doggy Language. Up and down the Scale I Go, Letting Them know how Welcome They are in Our Place. I enjoy Them Thoroughly, for They are Part of My family. We live unstuck.

I also do This with Mom. Perhaps She runs a Short errand. Upon Her return, even if Only after a few Minutes, I tell her how Glad I am to see Her. I also share How I Protected Our abode. I have a ferocious Bark, well Able to let any Possible Intruders (or Even those I’m unsure of) know I am On Guard. I can Sound Fierce if needed, for That is part of my Job. But My Heart is Open to Friends and I live unstuck.

Do You do the Same? When You connect with a Pal You haven’t seen For Awhile, do You greet them Warmly? Tell them all about what’s Been happening in Your World? Do You laugh and share? And I’ll bet You spend Time Listening Intently to Their Stories too. I’m Encouraging that behavior. You have Learned your Manners, as I have. Revel In these Good Feelings and live unstuck. #unstuckliving#catchingup

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.

—Marcel Proust

Creating a Red Letter Day

I love when people that have been through hell walk out of the flames carrying buckets of water for those still (not yet) consumed by the fire.

—Stephanie Sparkles

Duff here. Seems to me this Quote has Different levels. At first, I thought of Our brave Fire Fighters, keeping My Home safe and secure. I am Grateful. Firemen have a Special Place in My heart, too, for They Once Rescued Me from Our locked Car. Mom somehow Left The Keys inside with Me, probably so No One would take the Vehicle. But that’s a Story for Another Time. Definitely not Living unstuck that day.

As I Consider this Thought More Deeply, I remember The Situations where People Help one Another. Perhaps Someone has Put on a Gala Celebration. And a Friend is Stymied as To how She will Throw Her own party. She is upset. Not Happy. Very Worried, for The Grand Event is quickly Approaching. Imagine Her relief as the other Friend offers Her assistance. And friendship. And laughter. Living unstuck.

How about You? Do You support Others Needing the Wisdom of Your Years? Have You stepped in To Help another Who is Struggling? Lending a Hand when Needed? I, Duff, applaud You. You have Created a Red Letter Day for Someone Else. And That makes All the Difference. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#dedication#kindness

My Invitation for Mom

Duff here. I went to Doggy Day Camp the other day. You already know What a Joyous Occasion this is for Me. I get to meet My Friends, run around in a Very large Play Area and connect with other Four Legged Canines. The Kennel is the Best, for I have My very own Spot, just for Me to Laze about In. The Lady Owner is very Kind to me, often calling Me by Name and telling Me what A Good Boy I am. It’s nice to be recognized for Who You are. That’s living unstuck.

This Time was a little Different. I Charged out of the Car after It stopped, Ready to Go and Play. But on My Way to That Diversion, I remembered Mom. After all, She had Made This Day possible. She called and Arranged a Space for me. She packed my food. She drove Me There. So turning on a Dime, I Ran Back to Mom and Invited her To come Play with Me and My Friends. I could tell she was Touched by My Gesture. But She reassured Me: This Time was Mine. We would Play on another Day. And off I went, To Live Unstuck.

How about You? Do You have a Fun time Planned? And at the Last Moment, remember another Friend Who Would enjoy the Festivities? What happens Then? Do You pick up the Phone and Make That Call? I encourage You to do So. No Matter their Decision, You have extended an Invitation of Inclusion in Your World. And that Makes all the difference. Live Unstuck. #unstuckliving#inclusion#cameraderie

Hold a true friend with both your hands.

—Nigerian proverb

Wanna Come With You!

Duff photoDuff here. As a Dog, the Seasons impact When and Where I can accompany Mom in the Car. The Vehicle is My private Abode, a Place where I can Snooze in the Sun and revel in Warmth. But Only when The Temperature is exactly Right. Mom is very Careful to leave Me in a Secure Area When it is Too Warm or Too Cold. She is a Good Doggy Mommy. We both live unstuck.

Being at Home is Not Usually a problem. But if I am to Be Tucked Into the Office as Mom Runs Errands, She gives off Obvious Signals that This Move is Pending. Her Purse and Her Cup of Tea is left in the Car. She gets out of the Vehicle, then turns and Smiles at Me, saying “Come on, Duff” in bright Tones. These are Definite Indications I will be Left Behind. Now That would Be a Stuck Situation.

I snooker Her, for I will Dive into My Carrier located in the back Seat. She coaxes. She cajoles. She murmurs Sweet Entreaties. But to No Avail. I brace My Paws against the edge of the Pet Taxi and will not Budge as She pulls on My Halter. Eventually, I relent. But it is an Arduous Process. I wanna Go With Her and see The World. That to Me is Living Unstuck.

Do You do The Same? When Someone is going to a Place and You want to Tag Along, do You Plead Your case? Or do You have a Child That Does That? (They are Notorious for Doing so.) I recommend: Let Them come when You are Able To. The World is a Wondrous Place. Enjoy It as often as Possible. I do. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#companionship

P.S. Mom got Wise to My Machinations. She now Picks Up the Carrier with me in it. Drat!

Success is getting what you want, happiness is wanting what you get.

—W.P. Kinsella

It’s not what you want that counts. It’s what you get.

—Paul V. Verburg

Claiming Your Territory

Duff photoDuff again. Mom and I were perusing Facebook the other day. My, oh my. So many pictures of Animals of all Sorts. Some of the best (My opinion) are the Dogs. But recently, there was an Otter Momma teaching her Young ‘Un how to swim. And the rescue of a Hawk stuck in the grill of a Car.

But the Very Best Ones are those of People with Other people, Smiling away. They often have their Arms around each other and are Snuggled in Tight. I suddenly realized why Mom points her Phone toward the Two of Us and Takes a Picture. She’s claiming Me. I belong to Her Crew, for She is my Pack Leader. And Together We live unstuck.

Then I also understood: The People taking Their Pictures together are Putting a Claim on each Other. “This is my Friend.” “We did This together.” Or even “This is what We had to eat.” (I can really get into the Eats, as you can imagine. Some of those Munchies even looked Quite tasty, for Foods of any kind are My Choice.) These folks are living unstuck.

How about You? Do You take Pictures to claim a friendship? Or perhaps create a Memory? Or document Something Really Hilarious? Or do You move through Life, enjoying the scenery and Taking Pictures with Your Heart? I say: Mix it up. Do either one, depending on your Mood or Inclination. Whichever choice You make, I suggest You bolster your Friendships and Thoroughly Delight in Your Claim of the Good Times. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#claimyourterritory

PS: By the bye, I claim my Territory the ways all Dogs do. I’ll leave that to Your imagination.

Remember, there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.

—Scott Adams