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The Past: A Place of Reference or Place of Residence?

The past is a place of reference, not a place of residence.


Duff here. My past has been full of Eventful Deeds. I began as a Puppy, with all that entailed. So much to learn! How to Sit. Standing very Still for Mom to get my Harness hooked Up. How to Heel. When to get into My Carrier, My safe Place. A funny story about that: Years ago, after staying at A Wonderful kennel, Mom came to Pick Me up. The owner of the Facility was puzzled by My lack of Training. She asked my Mom to Watch. Then pointed to My carrier and said, “Crate!” I stood there and looked up at her, then Mom, concerned I had not Done Something correctly. Not living unstuck.

The Owner turned to My Mom and commented on My lack of Obedience. Mom started to smile, Which did not help The Situation. When asked what She did, Mom sheepishly said, “Hip hop in Your carrier, Duff.” And in I went, like the well Trained Canine I am. Now I understood. My Frame of Reference was clear. I was living unstuck. And I went on from There, learning Much of what the World had to teach me. Not stuck in The Past. And there’s more to Come.

How about You? Are You using the Past as a reference to Move on to Other Adventures? Or is It a Residence where You have camped out? I say: Time to Pack up Your Tent and Move along. You never know what Will be waiting for you. The Journey is risky but Oh-So-Rewarding. Time to Stretch. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#stuckinthepast

You Are Such a Light

A candle is a small thing. But one candle can light another. And see how its own light increases, as a candle gives its own flame to the other. You are such a light.

— Moshe David

Duff here. Mom and I have many Good Friends who are Jewish. Their Celebration of Lights begins on Sunday, and We want to honor the Holiday. As the Story goes, a small Quantity of oil, to light The Temple’s Menorah, miraculously lasted for eight days. It’s amazing to Me that There was enough Oil in that vessel to continue burning for that long. A True Miracle! To recognize the Event now, Gifts are exchanged and parties Thrown for that Length of Time. My goodness. Now that’s really Living Unstuck.

On another Note, a Friend of Ours who is Jewish holds a Special Place in My Heart. He took it upon Himself to help Socialize Me when I was Younger. He had Many Dogs. And He thought I might be lonely, for I am a Single Canine. (There’s just Me in Our home.) He thought perhaps His dogs could Light the candle of Friendship. Mom dropped Me off at His Place, and He gently introduced His Pups to Me. Alas, I am a Shy Dog. I was having none of that and immediately scooted under the Steps of the Porch — no unstuck living that day for me.

Do You have Friends who are Jewish? I say: Help Them revere the Occasion and wish Them A happy Hanukkah or Hanukkah Sameakh. They will appreciate Your Thoughtfulness and may even Share the History of that Time with You. My Friend did with Mom and Me, and We have long Remembered it. Happy Hanukkah! #unstuckliving#happyhanukkah

If You Are Really Thankful

If you are really thankful, what do you do? Share.

—W. Clement Stone

Duff here. I have so much to be Thankful for: a Warm bed at night, Kibble and Bits in My doggy bowl, Frequent Walks with Mom, Playing with other Canines My size, meeting New Friends. When I live in that Place in My Mind, I am unstuck.

But right Now, I am most grateful to You, My gentle Reader. I share my Views of the World and am thankful You take the Time from Your Busy Day to read my Musings. You revel in My thoughts and Undertakings. At times, My ponderings may take You deep Inside of Yourself. But at other times, you may Laugh at My antics. I love it When You respond to My Ideas. Touches My heart and makes Me feel special. I hope you feel Important too, for You are Indeed. It’s all part of Living Unstuck.

At This Time, I would like to Wish you and Yours (including Your Four Legged Fur babies) a Very happy Thanksgiving. Thank you again for Traveling this Road with Me. What an Adventure it has been! And there’s More to come. Happy Thanksgiving. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#thanks

Always Believe in Yourself

A bird sitting on a tree is not afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch but on its own wings. Always believe in yourself.


Duff again. I believe in Myself wholeheartedly. I feel good about Who I am, Through and Through. This Feeling resonates with Small Children, especially the Ones in Baby Carriers. They are usually down on My level and find Me quite Entrancing. I Skip along when Mom and I go to Work, anticipating the People I will meet. I love Myself just the way I am. I live unstuck.

The Part about the Wings? Well, Mom uses Me as an example of That at times. If a Client expects Another to do something special, say a simple thank you when a Favor is done, and They don’t? The Client may be riled Up, for their Expectations are not met. But Mom explains that Perhaps the Person is simply not capable of Doing That Specific Thing. She then Says, ‘It’s like expecting Duff to fly. Duff can’t fly. Duff doesn’t have wings.” Everyone laughs and that Negative emotion is Released. And there it is. Living unstuck.

How about You? Do You Believe in Yourself? I say: Take a Look at all of Your Experience and Knowledge, the skills, talents and abilities developed over the Years. You are okay just the Way You are. Revel in You and trust Your Good Inner Self. You’ll be Glad You did. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#believeinyourself

Encouragement: Buying Stuff From Kids

Buy whatever kids are selling on card tables in their front yards.

—H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Duff here. Mom is big on Buying stuff from Kids, especially During those Hot Summer Months. As We tool down the road, She will spot a couple of Children, sitting at a table with any Sort of Item on it. Once it was Toys they had Outgrown. These Youngsters wanted to share what They had with others. (I, Myself, don’t tend to Share a Toy with Another Canine. Nope. A human, perhaps, for That may end in a Pat on the head.) Mom carefully Slowed Down and Stopped. Greeting the kids, She gave then some green Paper Stuff and Completed the Transaction. The playthings were then Donated, so They could find Other Owners. Living unstuck.

Another time, We came across some Little People selling cups of Lemonade. It was hot. They were out By the Street. There was no Shade. Looking at them, I could tell They weren’t having any fun. This time, Mom took Me with Her to make their acquaintance. I Played with them, romping about in My imitable Doggy style. Mom then purchased A Large Cup of Lemonade. The kids were ecstatic! Even more so when She overpaid Them. (She probably didn’t have any Change on Her.) Now that’s living unstuck.

How about You? Do You slow down and Stop for Kids selling things? Doesn’t matter what that Thing is, Your gesture is Priceless. I say: You can’t afford Not to. Helps lift Their spirits and Bring happiness to The Day for All Concerned. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#encouragement

Compassion Over Judgment

As I get older, the more I stay focused on the acceptance of myself and others, and choose compassion over judgment and curiosity over fear.

—Tracee Ellis Ross

Duff here. So many Thoughts arise as I contemplate this quote. As You know, I definitely accept Myself. All of Me. Each and Every part of Me is Mine to Love. And yes, I accept others. Some more Readily than Others, for Large Dogs are difficult for this very Small Dog to connect with. But The Kind Ones? Those I can meet and greet, accepting as I go. Living unstuck.

I like the Opening created by choosing Compassion over Judgment. Leaves such Room for Discovery and Growth. And it’s easier on My Body and Mind, for conserving Energy to play and Have Fun is what My life is All About. Quite a warm and Good feeling to Share between Me and the Recipient. That’s living unstuck.

And What a Delight To be Curious! Fear be gone. It has no place in My World (or Yours either), for My Universe is filled with Wonder. So much to Nose Out and bring To Light. I recently spent time with Two Female Chihuahuas. Just My size. Whew! They Liked to Play and Explore, just as I do. Were I huddled in the Corner, afraid to Even Make Contact, I would have missed the Opportunity for a Friendship. No matter how Brief, I think Personal contacts are the best.

How about You? Are You curious as You go through Your daily Life? Does a tender Feeling touch You when Considering Another’s plight? How’s the Acceptance Business going? I say: Soften up and Enjoy life. It’s the Only way to Go. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#compassion#curiousityoverfear

Creating a Red Letter Day

I love when people that have been through hell walk out of the flames carrying buckets of water for those still (not yet) consumed by the fire.

—Stephanie Sparkles

Duff here. Seems to me this Quote has Different levels. At first, I thought of Our brave Fire Fighters, keeping My Home safe and secure. I am Grateful. Firemen have a Special Place in My heart, too, for They Once Rescued Me from Our locked Car. Mom somehow Left The Keys inside with Me, probably so No One would take the Vehicle. But that’s a Story for Another Time. Definitely not Living unstuck that day.

As I Consider this Thought More Deeply, I remember The Situations where People Help one Another. Perhaps Someone has Put on a Gala Celebration. And a Friend is Stymied as To how She will Throw Her own party. She is upset. Not Happy. Very Worried, for The Grand Event is quickly Approaching. Imagine Her relief as the other Friend offers Her assistance. And friendship. And laughter. Living unstuck.

How about You? Do You support Others Needing the Wisdom of Your Years? Have You stepped in To Help another Who is Struggling? Lending a Hand when Needed? I, Duff, applaud You. You have Created a Red Letter Day for Someone Else. And That makes All the Difference. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#dedication#kindness