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Change the Way You Look at Things

Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.

—Wayne W. Dyer

Duff photoDuff again. I was considering this thought the other day. When Mom grooms Me in the morning so I can be the Handsome Dude I am, I am content. But I have given this Ritual a New Twist. When She cleans out My Eyes from the night’s sleepers on my fur, I tuck into the Crook of her arm and look at her from Upside Down. I then Smile my Best Doggy Smile. Interesting to note: She always Smiles back. And gently coos Endearing Terms to me.

Or when I run fast and beat her to the Top of the Stairs? I Dance with Delight, for I know We will Play for a while. She Ruffles my ears. She tugs at My Tail, all the time chattering away in what I consider baby talk. You know, That Higher Pitched, Lilting Sound mothers make to babies. And I think I fit in that Category. What Fun we Have! We are living unstuck.

How about you? Do you change the Way you look at Things to make Life More Fun? Do You surprise Someone on Their Birthday? Or give a Sincere Compliment? Doesn’t take much. If you do and as you watch, the corners of their Mouths turn up and Their Eyes Sparkle with Laughter. You have changed the Way They experience Living. And That makes All the Difference. Live unstuck. #unstuckliving#change

Super Bowl: It’s Over

Fly, Eagles, Fly! The Super Bowl is over, and the playing field is level once again. It was a well-coached game between two top teams. Coaches gather trick plays from pro and college games over the years. Players practice these plays over and over again. The wait for the perfect time to use them is a test. But in the end, the old phrase “it all works out” proves true. These are the times that change the tide of a match. Both teams played their hearts out. And as in any competition, one team wins, and the other loses. After a period of rest, time to gear up for next year’s rivalries and challenges. To live unstuck.

Kareena Maxwell wrote in Friday’s 2/2/18 White Mountain Independent about Richard Blodgett, a man rebuilding his life. He, his girlfriend and his son live in Concho, and he is now living a peaceful, mindful life. It wasn’t always that way. He left a miserable childhood behind and had some problems with the law. But made a 180 degree turn when his son was born. Pioneering is in his blood, and he has dreams of a drone company in his future. Maxwell quoted him as saying: “I am grateful now for what I have.” He is living unstuck.

I have made those types of turns in my life. Stopped and assessed my life, then decided to take another path. To move in a different direction. To enjoy each day, challenges and all. To live unstuck.

How about you? Have you made that kind of change? Or are you in the middle of one now? I encourage you: live unstuck. #UnstuckLiving

Everyone is on an even course.

No one ahead. No one behind.

Everyone has hope.


New Year? New You!

The New Year brings an avalanche of suggestions for resolutions, many of which will last three weeks . . . or less. There’s the tried and true: lose weight, exercise more, stop smoking. And there’s nothing wrong with those. I’m all for them. But to live unstuck this year, I want you to have some fun and be successful with your goal. And here’s one you’ll have a good time with: meet one new person each month. That’s right, just one person. Not someone you already know. Not someone with a similar background. But someone with different interests or other perspectives than yours. Of course, you’ll have to turn off your inner filter (the one that blocks new ideas) and pay attention to what the other is saying. Challenging? You bet! But think of the mind expanding possibilities and new worlds you’ll venture into. If you can step into that person’s life, if even for a short time, you can broaden your horizons and stretch your mind. And your brain will thank you.

Where to find these folks? Chat with someone at the grocery store. Or at the gas station. Here’s another one: if you have a friend with a new baby, there nothing more pleasurable than a new mom with her little one. You could take a class at Northland Pioneer College or visit the Arts Alliance of the White Mountains. People interested in rock hounding or the arts will bring a whole other point of view into your life. See someone climbing off a motorcycle? Stop and chat. Find out where they’re going and a little about the bike. Talk with small business owners. I have learned a lot from Suzy at her Consignment Store about antiques. And Bonnie at Crafter’s Mercantile about gifting and creating. A wealth of knowledge. Get curious! I’m certain extraordinary ideas will come to you too. Live unstuck.

My challenge for all of us this New Year is to meet someone new each month. And we’re not confined to only one. We can meet more. But at least one person with a different point of view. An unfamiliar frame of reference. We’ll celebrate living unstuck in 2018! #UnstuckLiving

The less you talk, the more you’re listened to.

—Pauline Phillips

All You Have Is Your Mind

“After your career ends, all you have is your mind.” Steve Smith Sr. played for both the Baltimore Ravens and the Carolina Panthers. One of the NFL’s most productive wide receivers of the 21st century, Steve led the league in catches, touchdowns, and receptions during his playing days. And his comment about life after football is fitting. He decided to live unstuck and is now a TV announcer.

I thought about what it takes to be a professional football player: all the hours of practice, the coaching, the studying other teams’ strategies and the knowledge of physical care. And then they retire at a fairly early age. It dawned on me: we all go through this. We work at our chosen profession. Since the change in the economy, we may work in many different companies or even different fields. Or we may have had our own business with all that entails. And then it goes to the next owner. Or we raised our children. And then they leave home. But we give it our all while we’re actively involved. When we elect to retire or when life changes, Smith was right. All you have is your mind.

What will you do with your mind at that time? I encourage my clients to build a bridge of interests and opportunities from one chapter to the next. Ideally, this process begins before retirement. Or prior to a layoff. But it can start at any time.

Now, how are you going to do that? Let’s start with: What do you like to do? What tickles your interest? What do people come to you for? For me, people come to solve their problems and get past a stuck point in their lives. I am curious about others’ perspectives and motivations. And then I go from there to help them solve their issues. I’m living unstuck.

Are you bored? Start looking at what used to excite you. Hobbies? Interests? Or time to move in a new direction? Open new doors. Live unstuck. #Unstuck Living

Somewhere behind the athlete you’ve become and the hours of practice and the coaches who have pushed you is a little girl who fell in love with the game and never looked back. Play for her.

—Mia Hamm

Letting Go

For me this year, autumn, with all its glory, came early. The bright sunshine of summer whisked by and the cooler mornings of fall entered the scene. The first hard frost brought the end of the small, colorful summer flowers. Leaves are falling and piling on the ground. Time to let go and move into a new season.

And with this change comes those particular feelings that fall brings and a reminder of the snow and colder weather to follow. Just what are these “fall feelings”? I want to share a few of the many “feelings” that fill my heart and memory banks during this season.

  • The bright beauty of changing leaves. Bright flashes of red and yellow heralded the season.The first hint of fall’s arrival that made my heart sing was the bright red color of the trees lining White Mountain Road. This festive color began to show at the very tops of the trees, then like slowly dripping paint, started to drop through the rest of the branches. As the days grew shorter, the leaves seemed to change more and more quickly until they were completely scarlet. The willowy aspens, with their lovely yellows and gold of fall apparel, brought a dancing movement to the scene as the wind rippled through the groves on the mountains. Strong winds quickly whisked that fall apparel into the horizon last week, leaving patchy, bare branches.
  • The soft fall of pine needles. As the winds picked up and got more brisk, a carpet of gold and brown pine needles scattered all over the Mountain. As I looked up into the Ponderosas, I saw where the older needles had already turned color, ready for their flight to the ground. There will be time to rake them up in the spring, but for now, they are a reminder of the cycle of shedding and regrowth. The oak trees also showed off their bronze leaves, and they cushion my boots as I hike along my favorite trail. It’s as if all outdoors was getting ready for the changes to come.
  • The scents and sounds of autumn. For me, there is a crisp quality to the air, a dryness to it. The pungent smoke from chimneys and campfires is a reminder of comfort and warmth after being outside, bringing with it the memory of friendships and the cozy sensation of autumn. As the leaves lost their moisture, there was a different sound, a gentle rustle when a gusty wind skipped them along the forest floor. The insistent honking of the flocks of migrating birds was a sure sign of cooler weather on the way.

This is also the time for me to do some “fall house cleaning.” I tend to cocoon in the winter, and it’s helpful to have a semi-clean slate to work from. On a physical level, I take a look at what’s around me, and sort through what I want to keep and what needs to go. If something doesn’t make me feel good, I will find another home for it and gift it along its way. On a mental level, I pay attention to my thoughts. Time to weed the mental garden of pesky negative thoughts and smoldering regrets. Next is the emotional level. This is the time of year for happiness and gratitude. Thanksgiving is coming soon. I can do my part to be grateful for all things large and small in my world. Sometimes I’m more successful than others, but I’m preparing for a bountiful harvest of positives.

Autumn is an opportunity for me to use all of my senses to savor the season: physically, mentally and emotionally. As I remember the magic of warmth with layers of zip up hoodies and lighter weight jackets, I welcome the changing season. You too? Autumn, here we come!

I’m curious: what are your feelings about the fall season? What are you ready to release? I’d love to hear from you. Leave a comment below

I hope I have opened the door to enjoying the little things, both here on the Mountain and in your life.

Bringing over 30 years of experience to her practice, Joan is a highly qualified NLP practitioner and hypnotherapist. She specializes in anxiety, panic attacks, fears, and phobias, using her knowledge to help her clients become no-limit people. Many have found her friendly ways and precise techniques to be the easiest road toward a better life.

Changing Expectations

It’s difficult for a competitor to be picked up by a new team. And different expectations can be a challenge. A star player joined a new team and was not playing as much in a game as he thought he should be. The team was losing the game. The player felt he had more to contribute. He was looking daggers at his coach. On the flip side, the coach had many irons in the fire. Major offensive and defensive players were injured or ill. Substitutes had to step up and quickly learn the responsibilities of new positions. The coach was heavily involved in managing the game and couldn’t complete his job and get distracted on the sidelines at the same time.

The player forgot he was part of a new team. He needed to adjust his expectations. When asked about the situation later, the coach said, “I told him (the athlete) ‘it’s a role you’re going to play. It’s my job to keep you guys happy. It’s also my job to win games’.” He went on to tell the player, “How much you play you can’t control. But how well you play is up to you.”

I have been caught up in this at times when I had expectations when connecting with a group. That what I had to offer would make such a big difference. I was not on the team. And I could get stuck in that perspective. But I could make a shift and look at the big picture, the overall scheme. If the one leading the crowd had a plan, I listened. Then filled in where I could, playing my part as well as I could. If it wasn’t a fit, probably time to move on to another game.

Do you get stuck, thinking you are not utilizing your talents or knowledge in the best way you can in a group? Or in life? One way to get unstuck is to listen to the leader of the pack. Offer to bring your talents where they would shine and help the team. Enjoying the company of others in the group is probably the reason you joined in the first place. Change your expectations. Live unstuck.

Coming together is a beginning;

Keeping together is progress;

Working together is success.

—Henry Ford

Fall is Here

Autumn is just beginning to make itself felt, with light fingers of cooler weather in the mornings. As I step out for my morning jaunt, I pull on my hoodie for some warmth. Halfway through the sashay, off it comes for my body is moving right along by then. The afternoons are still warm, punctuated by monsoon thunderstorms. But early fall is in the air.

The aspens are beginning to get the brown and gold tones of the change in the season. As I walk through the neighborhoods and through the forest, the sounds seem softer and gentler as the days grow shorter. The birds are getting fewer as they wing their way south in that familiar V formation. What surprised me this year is the migration started in mid-August, much sooner than I remembered.

Our snowbirds are still with us, and I for one am grateful. Those summer visitors bring a different energy and vitality to the Mountain. I look at what’s happening in our town and am proudly amazed. So many activities to choose from! Beautifully restored cars are also starting to appear, possibly in preparation for Run to the Pines and the Fall Festival. Wow! Its right around the corner. Seems the pages on the calendar are flipping by so quickly!

In the evenings, the forest animals tuck themselves in for the night. The birds with their sleepy chirps, the squirrels curled up in the warmth of their tails and the bears arise from their daytime slumber to forage at night. They all have their familiar rhythm.

The outstanding Arizona sunsets have been gracing us with their presence with a palette of colors. At times, there is a weather condition that throws these colors back to us. The sun casts a light peach over the scene, soft and comforting as the sun goes down. Everything that’s visible is this warm tone, coloring everything in a bowl of warmth and color. As the sun goes down, the stars come out, with their twinkling glow. Such a comfort to be able to close the day this way. It’s time to shut down the mind and settle in for the night. Slumber is not that far away.

Are you the same way? Is it easy for you to tuck yourself in for the night and sleep soundly? Want to stop the chatter to drift off in peace? I developed this short 5 minute HypnoSnax to help you put an end to sleepless nights and get unstuck. Try it for free tonight, but not (of course) while driving. Fill out the form on this page (title Bothered by constant mind chatter?) You’ll receive a link to download this Stop the Chatter HypnoSnax. You will quickly calm your thoughts. You can enjoy a peaceful and restful sleep.

I’m curious: what are your feelings about the fall season? Are you able to quell your thoughts and fall asleep quickly? I’d love to hear in the comments section below.

Bringing over 30 years of experience to her practice, Joan is a highly qualified NLP practitioner and hypnotherapist. She specializes in anxiety, panic attacks, fears, and phobias, using her knowledge to help her clients become no-limit people. Many have found her friendly ways and precise techniques to be the easiest road toward a better life.